Thursday, October 19, 2006

Throw back

So last night I got a call from a number that I didn't recognize but something told me to answer it...and I am glad that I did...it was my cousin Toya out of Chi-town!

I haven't seen Toya since our grandfather passed in 2003 and hadn't talked to her in, what has GOT to be like two years! Crazy right...especially being that she and I were extremely close as little girls...I would go to North Chicago/Wakigan area for a couple months out of the summer...

But as we both got older we didn't have time for the summer trips not even down to our grandparents house in Alabama. Plus she and I were just completely different...looked different, shaped different, acted different...the whole nine. So while we got along, we often times didn't. I remember the last time I saw her (before the funeral) we were pre-teens, and I had gone to Chicago for the summer (that was like one of the first real times where I was made to feel different and out of place because of my skin color...I was the lightest and I was a little thing too, and my cousin was dark and thick, and I was made to feel every bit out of place).

Well it was near the end of the trip and we got into it. Instead of my Aunt figuring out what happened she just to Toya's side and threatened to let her "loose" on me...(yeah that's what I said...is this grown woman who is supposed to my Aunt actually saying this to me...well I never really thought she liked me anyways, you know as a kid you can just sense some things...and that proved my point. I called my mother and father and was like look ya'll got to come and get me NOW...cause these mofos up here is trippin...)

after that I was like bump it...I'll holla...

So I really didn't have too many words for them...you know...then our senior year of high school (we are the same age, but I am a couple months older) I found out she was pregnant and I was like well we are going down totally different roads...

so last night we caught up...and after a few years and 3 kids difference (she has 3 beautiful little girls)...I think we can finally be cousins again...meaning we will be able to have a mature, adult, female relationship with each other...

It was cool talking to her...I learned something that I really needed to know...it seems that she too has had to have a cyst removed from get this her LEFT ovary, and she also had one on her right...now all of this comes up with me telling her what is currently going on with me...CRAZY right!

WE were both just blown away...

She and her family are doing well, and I am doing well...she didn't even know that I had graduated with my Master's degree...we have both been successful in our own ways...and it was GREAT to hear from her and know that she is doing alright...

5 comments:

Kep said...

It is great to have those reunions with family. My cousin, who were very close when we were little, kind of got distant somewhere between highschool and college. Our distancing climaxed during her freshman year when I lectured her over AIM about the dangers of premarital sex. Well, you of all people know how I can come off through typing, so she really didn't feel all that comfortable with talking to me about anything for a while.

Then she got pregnant, which I knew about from another cousin well before she told me. When she finally told me, she was waiting for an "I told you so." I don't know why, because I've never been the type. Still, I just told her "It doesn't do me any good to be right in the situation, I just wanted you to know. I'm just happy you're taking resposibility and having the child." She told me then why she hadn't told me yet, and we just rapped for a while. Next thing you know, her child is being born and I'm a God-father!

That in combination with our grandmother being in the hospital has kind of healed a lot of wounds in our relationship. So we can enjoy being family again. It's a great feeling, I know!

Peace,
Kep.

NegroPino™ said...

That was nice of her to reach out to you. I hope the relationship resumes it course and you guys can be "cousins' again.

T.C. said...

@Kep-we shall see...if she can keep it real then you know I am hoping so....

@negropino-it was GREAT to hear from her...I hope we can have an open and honest relationship and we can grow into that grown lady cousin thang...LOL

Anonymous said...

that's great T! hopefully you guys can keep close.

T.C. said...

@JAC-yeah I am hoping so too...Imma try to get to Chi-town soon to get up with her and the girls....