mini mind dump

so on the radio this morning as i drove into work to waste $20 on parking because the lady i need to see at the wells fargo won't be there so that means i just drop the document off, so that means i could have rode the metro and then drove over and dropped it off...

*sigh*
i forgot a friend's birthday, her 30th at that was yesterday...
*sigh*

so back to my main point...

on the way into work this morning the radio show main topic was "should there be an expiration date on marriage"

surprisingly a lot of people agreed that there should be...

some sighted that at the very least on that date you should come together and re-group to determine if you are still on the same page and should move forward or not...
others were all for an expiration date is just that its done
NEXT

this is EXACTLY why i told my mother just this past sunday i may never get married and have children

(although if at 35 if it hasn't happened I will adopt why not give a child a loving home...side note: in my mid 20s i asked one of my guy friends that if we weren't won't both married or didn't have kids we should have a child together...his response: someone already asked-CLASSIC. i am glad that was his response because i look back on that now what the HECK was i thinking, don't get me wrong he's a GREAT dude, i hope we are friends until the end, but i didn't need and don't need to be making babies like that...)

back to the point (thanks for hanging in there by the way as i ramble) what's the point in getting married if you are going to go into it with the thought that it can be over if things don't go your way...or that person is at their worse i mean come on its MARRIAGE not a boyfriend/girlfriend thang...you take VOWS before friends and family but most importantly TO GOD

RE COT DAG ON DICULOUS

that people think such ways...

that's why i get super excited and siced when people i know get married or better yet WORK to at their marriages!

people grow and change all the time

my grandparents grew up together and where together from the time my madea was 16 until my grandfather died in 2003...

DUDE that 63 YEARS!

my parents will be together for 40 years this December...now neither of these marriages have been smooth sailing i am SURE OF THAT but they believed in marriage and they worked at it...

my madea told me once "i knew your grandfather all his life and still didn't know him...people change and grow until they die"

if people just got that through their heads we could make marriages work...

even though J Lo isn't probably the best example of marriages given her record, but in her recent "behind the music" she spoke of how Marc Anthony chose to be better to love her how she needed to be loved and she in turn wanted to be better to love him as well...

that's love!

that right there is what its about growing to be better for the person and not yourself...

ok so this post became a post on marriage...didn't intend that especially since i am not married nor have i ever been or even engaged but geesh like my momma n em always tell me i have always been smart enough to grow and learn through others...

oh i got another great 90 day review on my way to that promotion so we shall see what happens still working on improving though but at this point i have NO need or ambition to be "in charge" on the "center of attention" i just want to do my job and go home...

oh and i still love you...sucks for me right

cLASSIC