Wednesday, February 14, 2007

It just doesn't move me...

So let me start off by saying I am NOT bitter and I am NOT mad...

I honestly am just one of the few females that could HONESTLY give a flying fart in space about Valentine's Day...

Why you may be wondering...well beyond the obvious that its really a commercially exploited day that really does more for the card/candy/gift companies that true love...I just have come to feel and honestly believe that this ONE day is totally overrated...

Don't get me wrong I used to be a total V-Day female...wanted it all...but I have learned a lesson in love and life, that basically you should show someone that you love them 365 days a year 24 hours a day 7 days a week...love shouldn't be bottled up or over done just ONE day a year...
ONE day to make me feel special and for you to feel special...

Naw...No thanks...

I learned this lesson about 3 years ago...

Me and the BF at the time where going through hella issues/problems and basically he wanted me to come up top to see him because he had this HUGE Valentine's Day planned for us...Now this particular Valentine's Day was on a Saturday, so I was like well why don't I come up for the entire weekend, on Friday...I was promptly told NO and to come up on Saturday, actual Valentine's Day...so I being me, placed this in the back of my mind and kept it moving..

The date: We started out at McCromick & Schmick's in downtown Philly, from there we went to a Black Play and from there to a nice bed & breakfast...the next morning we went shopping for music and clothes and came to an actual understand that we would buy each other what we wanted to see the other in, instead of complaining all the time...so I bought him a button down shirt and he bought me the first pair of S. Carter's (you know the ones that looked like the Gucci shoes)

So it was GREAT! I had fallen in love all over again...we was going to make it...I got a nice card with a letter all of that...roses...man it was on point...

And you know what...the VERY NEXT WEEK it went right back to the same ol same ol...can't find him, he isn't answering the phone...just drama...

As a matter a fact, when I learned that he was cheating on me, remember the NO about coming up on Friday, well come to find out...that the Friday before Valentine's Day he was with HER....
LMBO....its freaking hilarious to me NOW, back then not so much

Lesson Learned

So that was a true lesson learned about love and life for ME...its not about ONE day, its about you and that someone else being totally 100% in it to win it together...
ALL YEAR AROUND
Now that's not to say that if that "special someone" wants to celebrate Valentine's with me, I won't because more than likely I will...but if he doesn't then it won't bother me none the same.

As long as we are in it to win it EVERY DAY...and its about love, respect and understanding...
2/14 doesn't really matter to me


Its like that Method Man and Mary J song...
All I need: Meth was right on point to me...

I'm your Mister, you my Mrs.
with hugs and kisses Valentine cards and birthday wishes?
Please
Be on another level of planning, of understanding
the bond between man and woman, and child The highest elevation,
cuz we above All that romance crap, just show your love

That's what I am talking about...showing love is much deeper than a holiday, and its much deeper than just doing something for one day...its showing and giving love on a regular basis...
If you need more of an idea of what I am talking about...

check out JAC's explanation of REAL LOVE...

Peace ya'll be safe, stay sane...and know that Jehovah GOD is LOVE and if you got him...everything else is just that, everything else....

11 comments:

j.a.c. said...

Interesting... (sorry I can't comment more. i'm on a time crunch.)

Here's a cut and paste on the origin of V-day.

"Valentine's Day started in the time of the Roman Empire. In ancient Rome, February 14th was a holiday to honour Juno. Juno was the Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also knew her as the Goddess of women and marriage. The following day, February 15th, began the Feast of Lupercalia.
The lives of young boys and girls were strictly separate. However, one of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man would draw a girl's name from the jar and would then be partners for the duration of the festival with the girl whom he chose. Sometimes the pairing of the children lasted an entire year, and often, they would fall in love and would later marry.

Under the rule of Emperor Claudius II Rome was involved in many bloody and unpopular campaigns. Claudius the Cruel was having a difficult time getting soldiers to join his military leagues. He believed that the reason was that roman men did not want to leave their loves or families. As a result, Claudius cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome. The good Saint Valentine was a priest at Rome in the days of Claudius II. He and Saint Marius aided the Christian martyrs and secretly married couples, and for this kind deed Saint Valentine was apprehended and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. He suffered martyrdom on the 14th day of February, about the year 270. At that time it was the custom in Rome, a very ancient custom, indeed, to celebrate in the month of February the Lupercalia, feasts in honour of a heathen god. On these occasions, amidst a variety of pagan ceremonies, the names of young women were placed in a box, from which they were drawn by the men as chance directed.

The pastors of the early Christian Church in Rome endeavoured to do away with the pagan element in these feasts by substituting the names of saints for those of maidens. And as the Lupercalia began about the middle of February, the pastors appear to have chosen Saint Valentine's Day for the celebration of this new feaSt. So it seems that the custom of young men choosing maidens for valentines, or saints as patrons for the coming year, arose in this way."

T.C. said...

@jac-yet another reason to NOT celebrate!

Tasha said...

I'm not much of a V-Day person either, I learned the same lesson you did in a very similar way. It's nice to get some extra attention, but if it's not consistent throughout the year then what's the point.

T.C. said...

@tasha-EXACLTY!

jus butterfli said...

hey you!!

i'm feelin' the post. mos def, FEELIN' the post. v-day has become so commercialized the shit aint even funny. besides, who wants to be treated like crap 364 days of the year and like a queen for only 1? there's sumthin' terribly, terribly wrong with that picture. (LOL)

now, on the other hand, if you're in a love thang where you're treated like royalty EVERY single day, v-day is merely an extension of the norm, so it's actually jus another day to y'all. i've "been there-done" and it was wonderful. moreso, i know for a fact i'm going to be blessed enough to do it again. :)

ummm... there i go again bein' all long-winded; but you know me! (hahaha)

peacez sweetie!

& i'm out...

T.C. said...

@jus-first WELCOME BACK! Missed you!!! But YES when I find that true love thang where its merely an extension...I feel you...I feel you...

NegroPino™ said...

(HUGS)

I wanna find somebody where Valentines Day is every day for me. Its nice to be appreciated.

T.C. said...

@negro-((HHHHUUUGGGSSS)) right back at ya...
He will find you! and his brother/cousin/uncle will find me! LOL

Honey-Libra said...

I posted I don't know why it's not up here but oh well...HEY GURLLL LOL

Brandon said...

Co-sign. Valentine's Day is a fluke. Just like you said, if you treat your woman right the other 364 days of the year, the 14th shouldn't be that big of a deal.

Nice blog TC. Thanks for stopping by.

T.C. said...

@honey-man I am mad your comment didn't show up

@brandon-thank you for stopping past! Its great to hear a brother say that..."treat your woman right the other 364 days of the year..." it goes both ways...Thanks bro