Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Historic

That's how i feel about this past weekend...everything that took place was completely historic...

My weekend started off busy as usual that's nothing new, but i knew that it would increasingly become more full as the days went on...

Sunday i attended Justice Sunday, its the official annual Sunday service that marks the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Holiday. This year I was actually asked to speak and at the last minute I did not speak. None the less it was an awesome to be in at such a wonderful event....I think the thing that was moving was that we had the youth all watch a movie that was about the Kids of Birmingham and how THEY in fact started the movement in Birmingham, AL in 1963 by being arrested some two, three a half a dozen times. it was the young people that put their lives on the line, because their parents couldn't if they did they would lose their jobs, so it was the children, the youth that went out there and made the stand...children as young as 4 were arrested for as the little boy said his "T dom" he couldn't even say FREEDOM but he knew what it was....so see the Kiamsha students "get it" that the very students they were watching were their age was incredible!

On Monday, Kiamsha completed a day of service by going to the Mt. Zion Cemetery in Georgetown. It was such a contrast when you go to the site and you see this HUGE beautiful cemetery with all these wonderful head stones and then you realize that isn't the cemetery that we were there to clean. The history is rather long but basically there was a "joined" congregation in Georgetown but once it split the original gave the black church 1/4 of the cemetery lot, which then became Mt. Zion...however the cemetery was not kept up and basically there were just mounds of stones literally thrown all over the place so we were there to clean and to take inventory so that families could be notified that their loved ones where there...the reason this touched me and made such an impact was that it "clicked" to me how scared burial grounds are and the fact that they were just disregarded and the fact that you can look over across this "fence" and see the divide so plain and visible was like WOW...even more powerful was the fact that i was able to speak with several historians from the area, both black and white and to hear the richness of the knowledge that they have to offer was so moving...

so when i saw those millions of people on the mall yesterday and i saw that everyone was there for a common purpose a common cause a common dream to begin to be fulfilled it was like THIS is what Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr was talking about when he spoke of the dream of the movement of the people to come together as a human race...like President Obama stated yesterday this is just the beginning and we have a lot of work to do, but to know that we can come together withOUT incident and be in love and peace was absolutely beautiful...so it made me feel like what i saw on Monday although very real is something that we can come together to work out...

we are finally staring to OPEN our eyes...we still have a lot of work to do, but we do see that we are going somewhere and making our way to the promised land...but like he stated its going to take all of us...the President makes federal policy he cannot change our communities...

WE HAVE TO CHANGE OUR COMMUNITIES!

its but so much that he can do if we aren't willing to get out there and make a difference and say you know what we will make this move and make this difference for our children and our children's children...he is the first African American/Black President, but he is not only the president for black folks but for all folks...and it makes me proud to know that one day maybe my black little daughter can be President (when i have a child) ...there is still a long way to go in terms of racism, sexism, all the isms'...

but yesterday January 20, 2009 we definitely took a step towards HUMANITY

Monday, January 12, 2009

i know i have been missing...

but i have been keeping up with people i just haven't had the time to get on here and write about me and my life...

so for the most part i have been incredibly BUSY like its totally insane how much i have been doing and how much running around i have had to do but its cool as long as the people around me are really happy and well taken care of its well worth it

i am taking on a couple of consulting jobs and getting ready to stack my money for some things that are coming my way...2009 is already shaping up to be a very exciting year and i am loving it...

i actually went out on Saturday night and hung out with a buddy of mines that happens to be of the male gender...LOL...my brother was like "about time" i am like dude its not like that its just us hanging out watching the game getting something to eat and its light...and that's exactly what it was a light/good conversation, no pressure no nothing just two people hanging out and enjoying each others company while talking about everything under the sun...which was good...

one thing i think we both came to the conclusion is that many people our age in their late 20s early 30s don't really understand just how hard it is to make a marriage or even a serious committed relationship work...and i think that is very true...and one thing that i said in counter to that is that people aren't really FRIENDS anymore...like when it comes down to it at the end of the day, the BEST relationships i have seen young or old are those that the two people IN the relationship BOTH see the other person genuinely as their best friends, they are friends they have mutual respect, trust and they can communicate about anything the good the bad and the ugly...because let's face it, its not IF you have some bad times its WHEN you have some bad times how you deal with them..

so for me i really want to be FRIENDS with someone first...

we also talked about how or why women (men too) stay after someone has cheated in the relationship and my thing is that at this point some people are really afraid to start over...its really scary out here to get out and meet someone new and begin the whole dating process over again and at least with that person you KNOW what you are dealing with and a history has been established..but my whole thing is this...i would rather take my chances and start over than settle and be miserable looking through phones, pockets and everything else trying to figure out if you are still out there...then eventually if you don't learn to trust the person again they may feel like well what is the point in being faithful "you don't believe me anyway" so they do them....naw buddy living looking over your shoulder isn't the type of life or relationship i want to be in...

i don't want to be in a jealous controlling relationship from either party...i want to be in an open, loving relationship that is built on friendship, respect and communication...

and i know that i must do my part to provide that from my end...

i re-read Proverbs 31 and let me tell you that's my blue print as a young woman...i want to be that Proverbs 31 woman and so that's what i am going to do continue to work on TC so that she can be the best TC she can be you know...because in the end the one thing that is going to matter is that I came to the table with the best that i have and being the best person that I can be with my eyes wide open and ready to give and enjoy it 100%

am i ready yet? no i am not i am still falling in love with me and focusing on my individual goals for right now and if something comes my way I am open to it but at the same time i KNOW that its going to take some time...i am not longer allowing time or society to dictate my life and "where I SHOULD be" at this point in my life, but rather i am taking stock on things and saying so where now...i think that's a much better approach don't you