I don't know about you, but this was my JAM!
I don't know man...its getting cold outside....maybe its time to make a move or two....you know what they say, "cold in your summer, hot in your fall...."
Naw, I'm just playing...
But this is a nice little flash back....
Now, don't fake, you know you was groving to this in your Acura Legend or Subruban...tinted out....seats back...leaning...music blasting...you and yours....feeling like you was on top of the world....
Man...the 90s
Oh, and let's not forget this joint...
Man Busta did his THANG on this one...totally underrated Jam...and Rah Digga...gets at you...I'm telling you...its getting cold outside...
What it do snuck.....
Monday, November 20, 2006
You have got to be kidding me...
I can't blog...are you serious, with all that has just happened I can't blog...
What do you mean you couldn't reach me for an hour and a half...
why did it take you OVER an hour AFTER the incident happened for you to call my mother and get my number...
are you kidding me?
So my apartment, the place that I lay my head, the place that is supposed to offer me peace and joy, has been broken into
Friday, November 17th at 3:30pm
I knew when the manager from my rental office left me a voice message...I could hear it in her voice...something was wrong...
I called right back, and she told me "Tiffany I hate to tell you this, but your apartment has been broken into..."
WHAT I am in total shock... Ain't this something...
First thing I say "Did they take my shoes" now ain't that something...that's the first thing I can think of, because I am shock...
I just had some boots delivered earlier this week, and the DHL folks LEFT my brand new boots outside my door...and they were there when I got home...
So I am rushing out of the office, and trying to get home...
I am PISSED, but then again, I am just like LORD PLEASE don't let my apartment be in shambles...Man did they go through my clothes, my underwear, what did they go through...
So I call my mother and she says that everything is ok, they didn't take any of my TVs or anything like that, BUT:
my laptop-GONE
my yellow diamond earrings-GONE
ALL my DVDs-GONE....
Old Verizon cellphone-GONE
AND they went through my lock box, so that means that they could have stolen some checks, they could have taken those...
Ok so now I have to call the bank, and change my checking and savings account...ok that's done...Ok I just need to get to my house.
I get there, my mother is here, the management is here, they are fixing my door...dag on what did they use to get in, looks like they used a crowbar, my door is JACKED up...man with all these locks...how many locks are you al putting on...DAG on...well better safe than sorry...
My Dad and my brother are here now....OK...I feel better...they are off the hook (getting on my nerves a little talking about they hungry) but I am feeling a little better...
Everything still looks the same, they did pop my safety deposit box...ok, no clothes, shoes, bags seem to be missing, but I don't know...glad I closed out those accounts and opened new ones...
Man they hit my next door neighbors too...this is crazy...we are apartment 6 & 7 in the last month that has been hit.
The police officer comes back to take my official report...
Ok, everyone is gone now, I can't take it anymore, I begin to cry...I start to clean, I have to clean...let me open up this door...I need fresh air in my house, I can't have all these spirits and things up in here...
where is my phone I need to call my mentor, I need CD and PG...OK, can you pray for me please...OK, I'll see you when you get here...man they make my feel better...they really make me feel better...OK he is a minister so he prays over my house and I am feeling a little better...
Let me call little BIG sis back...
"Yeah I am ok, it could have been a lot worse...yeah I do feel violated, people I don't know was in my house, I can't believe people I don't know was in my house, I don't even let people I KNOW in my house...but it could have been a lot worse, GOD still protected me...but man I knew something was going to happen today...I just had a feeling...when I left the house I felt weird...it could have been a home invasion and I was here...so I am blessed!
Yeah I am ok, Wood is coming over to stay with me, so I will be alright..."
Wood comes over...I still can't sleep...man its 4:30am, I need to talk to my mother...I call my mother...she talks to me, I eventually fall asleep on my couch...
Saturday: I sleep for what's only 2-3 hours...me and Wood sit up all day talking...that boy is stupid...he doesn't want to leave, OK I need to take a nap before I go out tonight...
I finally get some rest...Go out with Jes and Rik, man I needed that...
I come back...go to sleep...
Sunday: My phone begins ringing at 8am...First CD calls to check on me, then Ni, then Wood....
Ok Ok I am getting up, go to the parents house, come back home and cook...here comes Wood again, he is too funny...
Good night, say my prayers, Thank the Lord Jehovah God again because it could have been a lot worse...a whole lot worse...what if my CDs would have been in the house...
Man...now what...
Monday: Dag on it, they got my cordless phone too!
Life moves forward....
UPDATED:People find out how much your renter's insurance deductable is...with Sate Farm its freaking $500 so that means that whatever I lost I have to deduct freaking $500 from that to pay them...now what kind of sense does make it...in order for me to get my stuff back I got to pay the insurance company $500....UNBELIEVABLE!
I am tired man...I am really tired....
What do you mean you couldn't reach me for an hour and a half...
why did it take you OVER an hour AFTER the incident happened for you to call my mother and get my number...
are you kidding me?
So my apartment, the place that I lay my head, the place that is supposed to offer me peace and joy, has been broken into
Friday, November 17th at 3:30pm
I knew when the manager from my rental office left me a voice message...I could hear it in her voice...something was wrong...
I called right back, and she told me "Tiffany I hate to tell you this, but your apartment has been broken into..."
WHAT I am in total shock... Ain't this something...
First thing I say "Did they take my shoes" now ain't that something...that's the first thing I can think of, because I am shock...
I just had some boots delivered earlier this week, and the DHL folks LEFT my brand new boots outside my door...and they were there when I got home...
So I am rushing out of the office, and trying to get home...
I am PISSED, but then again, I am just like LORD PLEASE don't let my apartment be in shambles...Man did they go through my clothes, my underwear, what did they go through...
So I call my mother and she says that everything is ok, they didn't take any of my TVs or anything like that, BUT:
my laptop-GONE
my yellow diamond earrings-GONE
ALL my DVDs-GONE....
Old Verizon cellphone-GONE
AND they went through my lock box, so that means that they could have stolen some checks, they could have taken those...
Ok so now I have to call the bank, and change my checking and savings account...ok that's done...Ok I just need to get to my house.
I get there, my mother is here, the management is here, they are fixing my door...dag on what did they use to get in, looks like they used a crowbar, my door is JACKED up...man with all these locks...how many locks are you al putting on...DAG on...well better safe than sorry...
My Dad and my brother are here now....OK...I feel better...they are off the hook (getting on my nerves a little talking about they hungry) but I am feeling a little better...
Everything still looks the same, they did pop my safety deposit box...ok, no clothes, shoes, bags seem to be missing, but I don't know...glad I closed out those accounts and opened new ones...
Man they hit my next door neighbors too...this is crazy...we are apartment 6 & 7 in the last month that has been hit.
The police officer comes back to take my official report...
Ok, everyone is gone now, I can't take it anymore, I begin to cry...I start to clean, I have to clean...let me open up this door...I need fresh air in my house, I can't have all these spirits and things up in here...
where is my phone I need to call my mentor, I need CD and PG...OK, can you pray for me please...OK, I'll see you when you get here...man they make my feel better...they really make me feel better...OK he is a minister so he prays over my house and I am feeling a little better...
Let me call little BIG sis back...
"Yeah I am ok, it could have been a lot worse...yeah I do feel violated, people I don't know was in my house, I can't believe people I don't know was in my house, I don't even let people I KNOW in my house...but it could have been a lot worse, GOD still protected me...but man I knew something was going to happen today...I just had a feeling...when I left the house I felt weird...it could have been a home invasion and I was here...so I am blessed!
Yeah I am ok, Wood is coming over to stay with me, so I will be alright..."
Wood comes over...I still can't sleep...man its 4:30am, I need to talk to my mother...I call my mother...she talks to me, I eventually fall asleep on my couch...
Saturday: I sleep for what's only 2-3 hours...me and Wood sit up all day talking...that boy is stupid...he doesn't want to leave, OK I need to take a nap before I go out tonight...
I finally get some rest...Go out with Jes and Rik, man I needed that...
I come back...go to sleep...
Sunday: My phone begins ringing at 8am...First CD calls to check on me, then Ni, then Wood....
Ok Ok I am getting up, go to the parents house, come back home and cook...here comes Wood again, he is too funny...
Good night, say my prayers, Thank the Lord Jehovah God again because it could have been a lot worse...a whole lot worse...what if my CDs would have been in the house...
Man...now what...
Monday: Dag on it, they got my cordless phone too!
Life moves forward....
UPDATED:People find out how much your renter's insurance deductable is...with Sate Farm its freaking $500 so that means that whatever I lost I have to deduct freaking $500 from that to pay them...now what kind of sense does make it...in order for me to get my stuff back I got to pay the insurance company $500....UNBELIEVABLE!
I am tired man...I am really tired....
Friday, November 17, 2006
Finally got the date!
So today I went to yet another doctor's visit...
If you haven't been reading for a while, go here for background information
And sat down and talked to the surgeon about my cyst and what we are going to do...
Well I have surgery date confirmed for Saturday, December 2nd!
Why a Saturday, well my 6 month review is on the 5th, and I really don't want to take off from work, especially with my trip to Miami and the cruise after the first of the year...plus it will be laser so I will more than likely be just a little gassy...
I am going to have in & out surgery at Sibley Hospital in NW, DC. Its a pretty good facility, in one of the most affluent areas in this town, whatever that means. I just know that my doctor's are the BEST so I want to stick with them. So the hospital that they do surgery at could have been on the moon for all I care I would be there!
Both of my parents (my Dad included) are going with me. I am a little surprised and really grateful that they will both be there. My Dad doesn't do hospitals, and he surely can't handle me or my mother being sick, but he said that he will be there!
So he is saying it could be one of three types of cyst. The initial plan is to go in and take out the entire cyst, however, if its really attached to my ovary or any vital organs, then they will only drain it and scrap it out....The main concern is that its Endometriosis
That doesn't really concern me though, it is said to cause infertility, but my mother swears she was diagnosed with this BEFORE she had me or my brother...
Mainly, it doesn't bother me because I just have faith in Jehovah GOD and feel like if I am going to stress than that is in total opposite of what believing in GOD and having faith really is...
So just wanted you all to know...it can be 3 types, it may not come all the way out...and I go back to the Doctor's on December 1st to have my final pre-op visit and sonogram...
Its all good people, I can final get this over and done with...
Stay up, Stay true, take care of yourself and each other...
Peace
Oh and check out this new book about African-American women and Fibroids...I know I will!
If you haven't been reading for a while, go here for background information
And sat down and talked to the surgeon about my cyst and what we are going to do...
Well I have surgery date confirmed for Saturday, December 2nd!
Why a Saturday, well my 6 month review is on the 5th, and I really don't want to take off from work, especially with my trip to Miami and the cruise after the first of the year...plus it will be laser so I will more than likely be just a little gassy...
I am going to have in & out surgery at Sibley Hospital in NW, DC. Its a pretty good facility, in one of the most affluent areas in this town, whatever that means. I just know that my doctor's are the BEST so I want to stick with them. So the hospital that they do surgery at could have been on the moon for all I care I would be there!
Both of my parents (my Dad included) are going with me. I am a little surprised and really grateful that they will both be there. My Dad doesn't do hospitals, and he surely can't handle me or my mother being sick, but he said that he will be there!
So he is saying it could be one of three types of cyst. The initial plan is to go in and take out the entire cyst, however, if its really attached to my ovary or any vital organs, then they will only drain it and scrap it out....The main concern is that its Endometriosis
That doesn't really concern me though, it is said to cause infertility, but my mother swears she was diagnosed with this BEFORE she had me or my brother...
Mainly, it doesn't bother me because I just have faith in Jehovah GOD and feel like if I am going to stress than that is in total opposite of what believing in GOD and having faith really is...
So just wanted you all to know...it can be 3 types, it may not come all the way out...and I go back to the Doctor's on December 1st to have my final pre-op visit and sonogram...
Its all good people, I can final get this over and done with...
Stay up, Stay true, take care of yourself and each other...
Peace
Oh and check out this new book about African-American women and Fibroids...I know I will!
Thursday, November 16, 2006
Love Songs....
So I have been hit by the love song bug...
Teej did this a couple of weeks ago and the mix on E's page just has me going...
The one song is...
ooooohhhhhhh this love is so: Al B. Sure
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Taking the time to show my love for you, no
Do you love me too girl?
Oooh don't tell me, let it show
When you're with me I know for real
That out love can't help grow
Because the passion you bring to me, my lady
Oooh I won't go
I see a rose in the sky
I'll reach for you my love
And if a petal should fall
I'll catch your heart for you
Oh no
Whisper to me
So that I can see you closer to me
I'm wanting you more and more each day
That's why I'll say
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so, this love is so
Umm that I won't let you go (I won't)
Oooh this love is so that I won't let you go
You're lying there waiting for me to make love to you
I'll take all the time I need for you to B. Sure! of my love
Don't be afraid to yell my name
When the love feels this way
And maybe soon you'll see that I'm sincere
Oooh you'll say
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Roses are red and violets are blue
Love is blind and I don't know what to do
(When you're)
With me you see that I have no fears
But when you leave me all I can say is
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
He also has Computer Love and Make it last forever on ONE page!!!!
Then there is this song...
The Lady in My Life: Michael Jackson
There'll be no darkness tonight
Lady our love will shine
Just put your trust in my heart
And meet me in paradise
You're every wonder in this world to me
A treasure time won't steal away
So let me keep you warm
Through the shadows of the night
Let me touch you with my love
I can make you feel so right
Just come into my arms
While the world goes spinnin' by
And in the glow of candlelight
I will show you you're the lady in my life
Don't need no fortune or fame
I just want you close to me
No time for castles in space
Or livin' in make believe
I'd trade it all for just a rainy day
As long as I know you'll be there
So listen to my heart
Lay your body next to mine
Let me fill you with my dreams
I can make you feel so right
And baby through the years
Gonna love you more each day
So I promise you tonight
That you'll always be the lady in my life
Lay back in my tenderness
Let's make this a night we won't forget
Girl, I need your sweet caress
Reach out to a fantasy
Two hearts in the beat of ecstasy
Come to me
And I will keep you warm
Through the shadows of the night
Let me touch you with my love
I can make you feel so right
And baby through the years
Even when we're old and gray
I will love you more each day
'Cause you will always be the lady in my life
And my all time favorite...
Purple Rain: Prince
Man they just don't make songs like this anymore...I think I have listened to these songs like 20 times today...music just takes me away
Teej did this a couple of weeks ago and the mix on E's page just has me going...
The one song is...
ooooohhhhhhh this love is so: Al B. Sure
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Taking the time to show my love for you, no
Do you love me too girl?
Oooh don't tell me, let it show
When you're with me I know for real
That out love can't help grow
Because the passion you bring to me, my lady
Oooh I won't go
I see a rose in the sky
I'll reach for you my love
And if a petal should fall
I'll catch your heart for you
Oh no
Whisper to me
So that I can see you closer to me
I'm wanting you more and more each day
That's why I'll say
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so, this love is so
Umm that I won't let you go (I won't)
Oooh this love is so that I won't let you go
You're lying there waiting for me to make love to you
I'll take all the time I need for you to B. Sure! of my love
Don't be afraid to yell my name
When the love feels this way
And maybe soon you'll see that I'm sincere
Oooh you'll say
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Roses are red and violets are blue
Love is blind and I don't know what to do
(When you're)
With me you see that I have no fears
But when you leave me all I can say is
Chorus:
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
Oooh this love is so
Umm, that I won't let you go
He also has Computer Love and Make it last forever on ONE page!!!!
Then there is this song...
The Lady in My Life: Michael Jackson
There'll be no darkness tonight
Lady our love will shine
Just put your trust in my heart
And meet me in paradise
You're every wonder in this world to me
A treasure time won't steal away
So let me keep you warm
Through the shadows of the night
Let me touch you with my love
I can make you feel so right
Just come into my arms
While the world goes spinnin' by
And in the glow of candlelight
I will show you you're the lady in my life
Don't need no fortune or fame
I just want you close to me
No time for castles in space
Or livin' in make believe
I'd trade it all for just a rainy day
As long as I know you'll be there
So listen to my heart
Lay your body next to mine
Let me fill you with my dreams
I can make you feel so right
And baby through the years
Gonna love you more each day
So I promise you tonight
That you'll always be the lady in my life
Lay back in my tenderness
Let's make this a night we won't forget
Girl, I need your sweet caress
Reach out to a fantasy
Two hearts in the beat of ecstasy
Come to me
And I will keep you warm
Through the shadows of the night
Let me touch you with my love
I can make you feel so right
And baby through the years
Even when we're old and gray
I will love you more each day
'Cause you will always be the lady in my life
And my all time favorite...
Purple Rain: Prince
Man they just don't make songs like this anymore...I think I have listened to these songs like 20 times today...music just takes me away
Unbelievable....
As if that mess with OJ wasn't enough...
NOW there is a video out with little Black boys being urged to fight one another...by none other than what seems to be their very own parents!
St. Petersburg, Florida - The video is hard to watch and it's littered with profanity and racial slurs.
For nearly two minutes, adults, possibly even parents, cheer on two young boys to duke it out.
It was posted on the popular website, MySpace.com by a teen claiming to be from St. Petersburg.
Click Here to watch (the video is to the left of the screen...please note: the video is hard to watch and it's littered with profanity and racial slurs.)
This video is disappointing, heart wrenching, and totally sad...
You have children that are being bred to fight each other...to use physical force as a form of entertainment for those whom they more than likely look up to
It goes along with what I read in No Disrespect by Sister Soulja...
Chapter One: Mother
The parents of the black children were confused as well. Either they were overlooked and poorly educated (thus disconnected and uninvolved in the schooling of their children)the black parents went merrily along as the white children received the benefits of preferential arrangements-and there were many-that were provided through the tax dollars of both black and whit working people. In fact, black parents went to great lengths to prove that they were not black and conscious, or black and hostile, or black and demanding. They attended all kinds of integrated unity festivals..Meanwhile, many white students and their parents attended separate all white, semi-private coming gatherings...
Why do I bring that up? I bring that up because there is a serious disconnect in our community and among our people. There is no sense of pride, self-respect, or connection to the past. If the parents in this video truly understood the perils of enslavement, and the struggles of the Civil rights movement, and understood the power of teaching their children how to use their minds to advance and not their physical (even at the young age of what looks to be 7 or 8 years old) then such a video wouldn't exist.
I won't even get into the level of using the n-word, which is a clear indication of the disconnect. Our children are being lead by people that can't even lead themselves because they weren't lead our children don't even know the power in their heritage, their history they don't even know the power and brilliance of their minds because they aren't being taught to use it, to expand it to reach for anything better than what they see around them.
Just dealing with young people not only with Kiamsha, but tutoring these kids that come out of the DC Public School system and looking at how they are purposely being set up to fail in life...its totally something I can't even put into words...
I grew up in an area where this was a "rites of passage"
BUT what we have to get is that EDUCATION (understanding history) TRULY is YOUR rite of passage!
And that's why I bring up the point that the public school systems in urban areas such as DC and Baltimore, aren't really educating our young people..
That's why I think its equally important that we reach back, really go back and help in any way we can to start to really bring about the understanding that
EDUCATION IS THE KEY to changing our way or life...and we HAVE to emphasizingsising this to young people again...
"No you don't have a choice, its either college or a trade school, but you WILL do something in THIS LIFE"
My parents (and many of my friends parents...) never gave me the option education was ALWAYS ENFORCED in my house...I was going to college, I was going to graduate school, it wasn't even a thought about me NOT going...and now that I have made it through, shouldn't I help another young person make it, make it out...have a future...
That old saying "each one teach one" is so true...its time for us to take back our village...all it takes is one person reaching one person...if you don't know you can't do better...
BUT we DO know so what are WE going to do about it?
Another interesting article that was brought to my attention today by MikeSee...
Dated, Nov. 13, 2006: WTO Announcemens Formalized Slavery Model for Africa
NOW there is a video out with little Black boys being urged to fight one another...by none other than what seems to be their very own parents!
St. Petersburg, Florida - The video is hard to watch and it's littered with profanity and racial slurs.
For nearly two minutes, adults, possibly even parents, cheer on two young boys to duke it out.
It was posted on the popular website, MySpace.com by a teen claiming to be from St. Petersburg.
Click Here to watch (the video is to the left of the screen...please note: the video is hard to watch and it's littered with profanity and racial slurs.)
This video is disappointing, heart wrenching, and totally sad...
You have children that are being bred to fight each other...to use physical force as a form of entertainment for those whom they more than likely look up to
It goes along with what I read in No Disrespect by Sister Soulja...
Chapter One: Mother
The parents of the black children were confused as well. Either they were overlooked and poorly educated (thus disconnected and uninvolved in the schooling of their children)the black parents went merrily along as the white children received the benefits of preferential arrangements-and there were many-that were provided through the tax dollars of both black and whit working people. In fact, black parents went to great lengths to prove that they were not black and conscious, or black and hostile, or black and demanding. They attended all kinds of integrated unity festivals..Meanwhile, many white students and their parents attended separate all white, semi-private coming gatherings...
Why do I bring that up? I bring that up because there is a serious disconnect in our community and among our people. There is no sense of pride, self-respect, or connection to the past. If the parents in this video truly understood the perils of enslavement, and the struggles of the Civil rights movement, and understood the power of teaching their children how to use their minds to advance and not their physical (even at the young age of what looks to be 7 or 8 years old) then such a video wouldn't exist.
I won't even get into the level of using the n-word, which is a clear indication of the disconnect. Our children are being lead by people that can't even lead themselves because they weren't lead our children don't even know the power in their heritage, their history they don't even know the power and brilliance of their minds because they aren't being taught to use it, to expand it to reach for anything better than what they see around them.
Just dealing with young people not only with Kiamsha, but tutoring these kids that come out of the DC Public School system and looking at how they are purposely being set up to fail in life...its totally something I can't even put into words...
I grew up in an area where this was a "rites of passage"
BUT what we have to get is that EDUCATION (understanding history) TRULY is YOUR rite of passage!
And that's why I bring up the point that the public school systems in urban areas such as DC and Baltimore, aren't really educating our young people..
That's why I think its equally important that we reach back, really go back and help in any way we can to start to really bring about the understanding that
EDUCATION IS THE KEY to changing our way or life...and we HAVE to emphasizingsising this to young people again...
"No you don't have a choice, its either college or a trade school, but you WILL do something in THIS LIFE"
My parents (and many of my friends parents...) never gave me the option education was ALWAYS ENFORCED in my house...I was going to college, I was going to graduate school, it wasn't even a thought about me NOT going...and now that I have made it through, shouldn't I help another young person make it, make it out...have a future...
That old saying "each one teach one" is so true...its time for us to take back our village...all it takes is one person reaching one person...if you don't know you can't do better...
BUT we DO know so what are WE going to do about it?
Another interesting article that was brought to my attention today by MikeSee...
Dated, Nov. 13, 2006: WTO Announcemens Formalized Slavery Model for Africa
Monday, November 13, 2006
Song of the Week:Tribute
It would only be fitting that the Song of the Week be by the one and only
G-Bear...
Mr. Gerald LeVert!
Funny....its on a lovely tribute by Mr. A.J. Smith!
This is truly one of my favorite Gerald LeVert songs....
He will truly be missed...
Let's take care of ourselves and each other!
Peace & Blessings!
G-Bear...
Mr. Gerald LeVert!
Funny....its on a lovely tribute by Mr. A.J. Smith!
This is truly one of my favorite Gerald LeVert songs....
He will truly be missed...
Let's take care of ourselves and each other!
Peace & Blessings!
Friday, November 10, 2006
Ok...so here is the reality
Eeeeeesssssssssssssshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I took such a beating from the brotha's on my "jones for Jim Jones" post (directly below) that I felt compelled to give some calrity to my "reality" or true feelings about men....the brotha's.......as I see them...
~THESE BEAUTIFUL BROTHERS ARE MY REALITY~
Now, I do NOT have an ideal black man (IBM) list or even a type...
I have a few givens, things that I think are important, but I don't have a list, I feel like lists put you into a position NOT allowing yourself room to breathe it just puts you in a box...and that BOX/tightly packaged MAN may never come your way...
But here are a few givens...
***believe in Jehovah God and his son Christ...and HAS a personal relationship with them, through studying and cultivating that relationship at least working on it...if nothing else
***respectful
***HONEST (I don't like liars)
***Has a strong bond with his family...respects the importance of family
***Has goals, wants something out of life...(I don't care if you drive a bus or work in corporate America...just have some goals)
***Someone who believe in the sanctity of MARRIAGE...wants to be MARRIED
***Faithful (can't just assume that folks believe in monogamy)
***Can hold a conversation about any and everything from current politics, black weath, religion, music, to just joking around
***Understands the importance of giving back or at least respects my role in the community...has consensousness about the events of the day, and what is going on in OUR community...and wants to do something about it, even if its just being the BEST man he can be and raising his family right...
You know just someone who is...
Open to experience new things: such as new places, food, music...someone who will go to a Gnarls Barkley or The Gorillas OR see Maze or Prince or Jay-Z...or go down to U Street and listen to some Jazz...
AND
Rocks more than just a white tee and Timbs/Nike Boots/Air Force Ones every where we go...have some flavor....
But more importantly I just want someone who is INTO me...I mean really into me, from the way he looks into my eyes, to the way he rubs my cheek, the way he holds my hand...just is a MAN NOT a male (and YES brothas I know that requires me to be a WOMAN and NOT a female..I am willing to do my part as long as he is willing to do his)...
So although I do have a "jones" for Jim Jones...that's NOT my reality...my reality is a God fearing/spiritual (not just religious, because you can go to church EVERY Sunday and NOT know a THANG about GOD or have a relationship with him) clean-cut/eclectic, upright, honest, loving, intelligent, strong, faithful brother...NOW THAT'S SEXY....
A brotha that's in it to win it...me and him against the world...doing it the RIGHT way...
That's my reality....
I took such a beating from the brotha's on my "jones for Jim Jones" post (directly below) that I felt compelled to give some calrity to my "reality" or true feelings about men....the brotha's.......as I see them...
~THESE BEAUTIFUL BROTHERS ARE MY REALITY~
Now, I do NOT have an ideal black man (IBM) list or even a type...
I have a few givens, things that I think are important, but I don't have a list, I feel like lists put you into a position NOT allowing yourself room to breathe it just puts you in a box...and that BOX/tightly packaged MAN may never come your way...
But here are a few givens...
***believe in Jehovah God and his son Christ...and HAS a personal relationship with them, through studying and cultivating that relationship at least working on it...if nothing else
***respectful
***HONEST (I don't like liars)
***Has a strong bond with his family...respects the importance of family
***Has goals, wants something out of life...(I don't care if you drive a bus or work in corporate America...just have some goals)
***Someone who believe in the sanctity of MARRIAGE...wants to be MARRIED
***Faithful (can't just assume that folks believe in monogamy)
***Can hold a conversation about any and everything from current politics, black weath, religion, music, to just joking around
***Understands the importance of giving back or at least respects my role in the community...has consensousness about the events of the day, and what is going on in OUR community...and wants to do something about it, even if its just being the BEST man he can be and raising his family right...
You know just someone who is...
Open to experience new things: such as new places, food, music...someone who will go to a Gnarls Barkley or The Gorillas OR see Maze or Prince or Jay-Z...or go down to U Street and listen to some Jazz...
AND
Rocks more than just a white tee and Timbs/Nike Boots/Air Force Ones every where we go...have some flavor....
But more importantly I just want someone who is INTO me...I mean really into me, from the way he looks into my eyes, to the way he rubs my cheek, the way he holds my hand...just is a MAN NOT a male (and YES brothas I know that requires me to be a WOMAN and NOT a female..I am willing to do my part as long as he is willing to do his)...
So although I do have a "jones" for Jim Jones...that's NOT my reality...my reality is a God fearing/spiritual (not just religious, because you can go to church EVERY Sunday and NOT know a THANG about GOD or have a relationship with him) clean-cut/eclectic, upright, honest, loving, intelligent, strong, faithful brother...NOW THAT'S SEXY....
A brotha that's in it to win it...me and him against the world...doing it the RIGHT way...
That's my reality....
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